What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

This question is an essential part of exploring what it takes to get what you want in life.  It may seem whimsical, even a waste of time to consider, as failure has always been an option, a consistent possibility in anything you have attempted and even achieved.  Most people have grown up knowing that they could always, at any moment and in any situation, fail miserably and experience the humiliation, discouragement, and shame that accompany failure.  But how many learned, as children, that success is as great a possibility as failure?  Did you grow up aware that you are as likely to succeed as to fail?  Or was failure the anticipated result of your choices and efforts?

The secret truth (secret only because so few have taken time to recognize it) is that everything is possible for you. This may seem a radical kind of statement, especially as you survey your own life and the disappointments that may have been a major part of your experience.  But, in reality, life is not a matter of finding the few things that might be possible and then trying very, very hard to make them happen; rather, life offers every individual the opportunity to choose (from among virtually unlimited possibilities) the options that serve him/her best.  The difficulty for most of us is that we learn to expect limitation and failure, and that expectation rapidly becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You have immense power; you may not be using that power in the most effective way, but the power is there nonetheless.  You came into this life with the power to create what you want, and that power remains with you throughout your entire experience.  What you choose to do with it is up to you.

Everything you create in your life is created twice.    The odd but undeniable fact is that your life and all its day-to-day experiences is a reflection of what you have created in your own mind.  It’s a little like a blueprint for a house; if you were to create a blueprint for a house and then ask a contractor if he/she could create the contents of that design, he/she would most likely say “Sure, I can do that,” and would then go about the business of making certain that the results of his/her efforts matched the blueprint you had provided.

The same thing happens in your everyday experience.  Your inner blueprint is made up of all the experiences you’ve had, the things you’ve learned about yourself (what you’re capable of, what you deserve, what’s possible for you, etc.), about other people and what you can expect of them, about life in general and how it works, and the beliefs, attitudes, perspective, and expectations this inner design has generated.  This impressive collection of things is all the unconscious mind has to work with as it determines what thoughts, feelings, choices, and behaviors you will manifest in your day-to-day life.  A big part of the job of the unconscious mind is to ensure that your external reality (your everyday experiences) matches your internal design (what you believe, the way you think about things, the expectations you have, the attitudes you carry).  As a result, the life you live each day is a reflection of what’s going on in your head (what you focus on is what you get more of); and so, in a very real way, each individual does, indeed, create his own reality:

  • a negative attitude attracts negative people and experiences
  • a focus on what isn’t working results in more things that don’t work
  • a preoccupation with scarcity or lack leads to more scarcity and lack
  • the belief that there is plenty to go around allows abundance to occur
  • the awareness that everything is possible allows you to recognize opportunities
  • the certainty that you get to have what you want generates power, discipline, and focused behavior
  • the understanding that the past is a source of tremendous learning and insight, and only has a negative affect on the future if you allow it results in wiser choices and decisions
  • an ongoing state of gratitude creates space for a powerful perspective and new and constantly improving experiences
  • goals that are compelling and passionate generate momentum and action.

The remarkable thing here is that YOU are the architect of that inner blueprint, and YOU get to choose what gets included in that life-shaping design.  At every moment during the course of your day you have the opportunity to decide how you’re going to show up, what attitude will be the filter or lens through which you’ll view and understand your circumstances.  You get to choose what meaning you’ll put on the events and situations you experience, and how you’ll react to that meaning.  In short, you have the power (and the responsibility) to select how you will feel and what you will do during every second of your entire life.
The majority of people are not aware of this power, and, if they realize the power exists, often don’t know how to use it effectively.  The typical result of this is a lot of reactive behavior – waiting for someone else to do something that can then be reacted to, taking whatever comes along and trying to make the best of it, feeling powerless and even victimized by everything that cannot be controlled.

In order to use this power wisely one must be willing to give up the luxury of powerlessness and the perceived payoffs of living in the role of victim.  What is this luxury, and what are those payoffs?  See whether the following are familiar:

  • sympathy
  • attention
  • others rushing in to do what you don’t  want to do for yourself
  • ongoing excuse for not taking action to change your situation
  • a way of thinking about  yourself (identity) that doesn’t require taking risks (why would you risk changing your life if you are powerless to make anything happen?)
  • the opportunity to stay stuck in self-pity and the list goes on.

As long as any of the above remain as part of one’s internal blueprint, it is virtually impossible to access one’s true power to create a life that’s filled with opportunity, satisfaction, and abundance.  As mentioned earlier, the unconscious mind ensures that your day-to-day experience matches what’s going on in your mind, so if power, possibility, unlimited prosperity, joy, satisfaction, peace of mind, or any of the other things you might want in your life are not included in that blueprint, the unconscious mind simply says, in response to your expressed desire for any of the above, “Sorry, that thing (power, prosperity, peace, joy, etc.) isn’t in the blueprint and we can’t create anything that’s not in the design” and then makes sure that your life doesn’t offer any of the things you want.

If, indeed, your everyday life is a reflection of what’s going on in your mind, why not choose to create (in your mind) the kind of life you really want, knowing that it will then have a much greater chance of materializing?  Why allow undisciplined and random thoughts and images, largely based on the past, to determine the kind of life you live?  If you are the architect of your own experience, why not make it everything you want?